The general concept of adulting is pretty simple. Do your job, pay your bills, stay faithful to your partner, and don’t smoke crack. When it gets tough, well, that’s when character is defined. People assume you should enjoy life and be happy 99% of the time. In a perfect world, that would be awesome, but here in reality, there are tasks we have to do that just plain suck. In military life, there is a lot of suck. Receiving orders with only weeks to PCS, time apart for school or training, unexpected deployments, crappy duty stations, the list goes on. A variety of situations arise that we usually didn’t plan for and have absolutely no control over. So, we have two choices. Either get the task done or whine about why we don’t want to, and still end up having to do it anyway.
The key is to not let it affect your overall attitude. Yeah, you can be pissed off or frustrated or disappointed but AFTER you’ve processed those feelings it’s time to focus and get down to business. Don’t dwell, don’t complain, just do it. Being an adult means we do things that we don’t want to do. I’m a mom. I change numerous poopy diapers every day. I don’t enjoy this task and I don’t pretend to but I do it because it has to be done. We don’t have to like every task that comes our way; we just have to do it and get it over with.
I think this is a good time to put into practice the phrase, “Pick your battles.” You can either let little things get under your skin, or just suck it up, get it done and put it behind you. Oh, and bonus points for not only accomplishing the task but doing it well!
So when the military makes decisions for you, take a deep breathe, bitch, moan then put on your grown folks undies and embrace the suck. You’ve got this.
Afghan man offering tea to soldier
I often write about the overwhelming love and strength I have found within the military community, but recently I have witnessed firsthand how truly extraordinary this community is when tragedy strikes.
Well 2016 certainly didn’t fail to surprise us. From the Zika virus, to political turmoil, and the loss of many beloved icons, 2016 has dealt us some serious blows. Don’t lose all hope just yet! While many unexpected, unfortunate and devastating events took place, there were also many positive things that 2016 brought about.