Jack’s First Swim Lesson


I’m writing this post 3 weeks late, but oh well! We’ve celebrated another exciting milestone: Jack had his first swim lesson! I figured it would be best to get him comfortable with the water early. I inquired about swim lessons on post, but unfortunately they lack instructors, so I reached out to the local YMCA.

I was hesitant to enroll him because he has been going through a lot of separation anxiety. He often cries when I leave his sight and is skittish around strangers to the point that he has a full on meltdown around certain people. I understand this is a normal developmental stage, and I thought swim lessons would be a wonderful outlet to help him work through it. We have a little pool blown up at home and he loves to splash in so I presumed swim lessons would be a good start. My thought process was that easing him into new experiences and getting him comfortable with new people through an activity he likes would be beneficial. I’m not going to lie, I was worried the moment I handed him over to the swim instructor, he’d freak out. I brainstormed ways to reduce the likelihood of a meltdown and concluded I should just lead by example. Children can read our body language and follow our cues. I assumed that if my behavior was natural and enthusiastic, he would follow suit. Once I got him changed into his swim diaper, the instructor introduced herself. I happily exclaimed, “Okay, time to go play with Mrs. Jessica!” and handed him over. He took to her immediately and I was SO RELIEVED!


I cannot praise his instructor enough! She was phenomenal with him. It also helps she’s got three children of her own, and is very easygoing. I’m really looking forward to upcoming lessons and seeing Jack grow and develop, and splash and giggle to his little heart’s content!

How to Handle Being Bullied as a Military Spouse


We all know bullying is an ongoing problem among children, but don’t be fooled into thinking it stops once you’re an adult. Military spouses can be victims of bullying by civilians, service members and sadly, other military spouses. Military spouse bullying is one of those occurrences that is relevant in the military community, yet very few people talk about it. Continue reading

I Have a 1 Year Old!


I still can’t believe I have a 1 year old! 

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Dear Military Spouse: Don’t be a Rank Skank

IMG_8504.PNGRecently, I took Jack to the park on post near our house to swing on the baby swings and enjoy a warm spring day. That’s where I overheard the most absurd statement I’d ever heard uttered from a military spouse.

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To My Son on His First Birthday


To the beautiful boy who gave me the gift of motherhood.

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4 Tips for Make Self-Care A Priority – Military Spouse Edition


Have you ever felt the weight of life’s responsibilities weighing you down? Military spouses are pulled in so many directions, and are often left to handle many things on our own. For many of us, this becomes burdensome as we end up caring for others’ needs at the expense of our own. Our desires and needs go by the wayside as we try to take care of our loved ones without nurturing ourselves. There’s actually a term for this called the superwoman syndrome. Many of us fall victim to it, which can become a slippery slope. The more we neglect our own needs, the more negative the impact, not only for ourselves, but for everyone we interact with. Our overall well being begins to decline; we are physically and mentally exhausted until we reach a breaking point where we have no choice but to slow down and take care of ourselves like we should have been all along. Continue reading