This is the first Motivation Monday post! I’ve chosen the above quote in honor of Mother’s Day.
As I expressed in this post, I approached motherhood with a combination of trepidation and excitement. I was terrified of being scrutinized by other moms just waiting for me to fail so they’d have something to criticize. Mom shaming is ever increasing, and social media gives a new platform to this damaging trend. I believe it stems from insecurity, as does most bullying. Mothers understand how difficult this role is, so why make it any more complicated by purposefully tearing each other down? I’ve decided to make a conscious effort to praise other mothers any opportunity I have. As a social worker, I’m inclined to emphasize a person’s strengths, which is exactly what I plan to do with my fellow moms. So to all the moms out there, keep your heads up, you are amazing!
I’ve come to the conclusion that I am never going to be a perfect mother, because the perfect mother is nonexistent.
Even the moms who seem to have it all together – who don’t wear yoga pants to the grocery store and insist on cooking organic, home-cooked meals every night, don’t have it all together. On the outside it may seem as if everything in their world is in order, but it isn’t, because life and children are unpredictable. All the planning in the world can’t prepare you for those unforeseen moments that are completely out of your control. My kid is going to have meltdowns because I won’t let him eat crayons, or tell him he can’t wear his snow boots in the pool but that’s just a normal tuesday. I will always be emotionally available to lend a closed mouth, open ears and outstretched arms when they need comfort and reassurance. The fact that my kids won’t love me all the time is not a testament to me being a bad mother, it’s a testament to me being a responsible parent. I’m a mother first, friend second. They will not always like the things I say, or the rules I set forth, but at the end of the day, I know I’m not a perfect mom, but that I’m doing a million things to be a good mom, and being a good mom is good enough for me.