The Hardest Part of Moving to a New Duty Station


The movers finished unloading, boxes are unpacked (mostly), and I’m trying to figure out where the wall decor will fit in this new home’s layout. I’ve met one neighbor and I’m beginning to settle in. But now comes the part of PCSing I find the most difficult.

The hardest part of PCSing for me isn’t the actual move, it’s trying to re-establish myself in a new location. At each duty station I find my bearings and settle into a routine. When we move, I have to do this all over again.

I was used to going to the same pharmacy around the corner for medications and the vitamins I couldn’t find anywhere else. The baristas at Starbucks and the local coffee shop knew my order by heart and would even throw in an extra espresso shot for free. Our pediatrician knew just how to calm Jack and make him feel at ease during an exam. I memorized the entire layout of the grocery store and could easily be in and out with my shopping list fulfilled in an hour. Our veterinarian, groomer and boarder couldn’t wait to cuddle our affectionate little furball of a cat and give him the best care possible. Our doctors knew we were a military family and bent over backwards to help us sort out billing with Tricare and didn’t penalize us if we missed an appointment due to an unforeseen military obligation. I could count on the local Valvoline to have my information stored and my car’s oil changed and tires rotated in 30 to 45 minutes tops.

Now, I have to find all new establishments. Develop all new relationships. Put down all new roots. This is the part of moving I find most difficult.

I’m slowly finding my way around. This is the first time we’ve ever lived on post, so that’s an additional element to consider. My husband had to leave a month into the move, so I’m trying to navigate this transition on my own. So far, so good. We are a street away from the commissary and PX so that’s convenient. But, now I have to establish my routine all over again. I’m trying my best to conquer my anxiety by reaching out to meet neighbors and hopefully make some friends.

Most military spouses I know don’t like change, but we know it comes with the territory, so we learn to adapt. I’m no different. Change is hard. It gets easier, but it’s still no walk in the park. No matter what comes my way, I know I can handle it because I’m a military spouse and that’s what we do.

What is the hardest part of moving to a new duty station for you?


  1. Good call! That IS the most difficult part of moving. It’s when the excitement of going to a new place wears off and finding that day-to-day routine is just simply a pain in the butt. And of course he leaves during the transition time. It’s just how it goes. Every. Single. Time. Military spouses have our own version of Murphy’s Law, which is: If it can go wrong, it will when he’s gone.


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