13 Crucial Things to Discuss Before Marrying Into the Military

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There is a lot of advice floating around about what matters you should discuss before marriage, but many of them do not pertain to military relationships.

I’ve been getting a lot of emails from military girlfriends asking for my “professional” opinion as a therapist on whether they are ready to get married. I can’t give personal advice because I don’t know the specifics about their individual relationships, but I can offer some general advice that will ensure you have a solid foundation for a successful military marriage.

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The One Question You Should Never Ask a New Mom

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Picture it. You’re a first-time mother out in public with your baby. You’re still in that stage where you’re paranoid you didn’t bring everything in the diaper bag and are wondering if your baby is going to behave or cry up a storm. Then, someone asks you, “Is he/she a good baby?”

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How to Handle Being Bullied as a Military Spouse

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We all know bullying is an ongoing problem among children, but don’t be fooled into thinking it stops once you’re an adult. Military spouses can be victims of bullying by civilians, service members and sadly, other military spouses. Military spouse bullying is one of those occurrences that is relevant in the military community, yet very few people talk about it. Continue reading

4 Tips for Making Self-Care A Priority – Military Spouse Edition

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Have you ever felt the weight of life’s responsibilities weighing you down? Military spouses are pulled in so many directions, and are often left to handle many things on our own. For many of us, this becomes burdensome as we end up caring for others’ needs at the expense of our own. Our desires and needs go by the wayside as we try to take care of our loved ones without nurturing ourselves. There’s actually a term for this called the superwoman syndrome. Many of us fall victim to it, which can become a slippery slope. The more we neglect our own needs, the more negative the impact, not only for ourselves, but for everyone we interact with. Our overall well being begins to decline; we are physically and mentally exhausted until we reach a breaking point where we have no choice but to slow down and take care of ourselves like we should have been all along. Continue reading

How to Embrace the Suck of Military Life

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For the Young Military Spouse Feeling Lonely During the Holidays

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I often receive messages from spouses, some asking for advice, some just wanting to introduce themselves. Recently, I received the email below. This one hit home with me because I can relate to her loneliness and struggle with mental illness. My heart truly went out to her. With her permission, I’ve included her email and my response.

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3 Tips to Ease the Stress of Military Life

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Anyone who has ever experienced a military lifestyle knows it gets hectic. This life comes with numerous stressful situations and decisions.

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