There is a lot of advice floating around about what matters you should discuss before marriage, but many of them do not pertain to military relationships.
I’ve been getting a lot of emails from military girlfriends asking for my “professional” opinion as a therapist on whether they are ready to get married. I can’t give personal advice because I don’t know the specifics about their individual relationships, but I can offer some general advice that will ensure you have a solid foundation for a successful military marriage.
I often receive messages from spouses, some asking for advice, some just wanting to introduce themselves. Recently, I received the email below. This one hit home with me because I can relate to her loneliness and struggle with mental illness. My heart truly went out to her. With her permission, I’ve included her email and my response.